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Life is like an UMBRELLA....

08/10/2011 16:46:00

Have you ever thought about the symbolism of the UMBRELLA? It provides protection from many very different variables of weather! Keeps us dry from rain, shaded from the heat of the sun, and it even can break the wind from zipping through our hair!! I find it most interesting that some people need this UMBRELLA for feeling safe and protected. Other's do not need an umbrella, they are either content without protection, or wish they had one!! Nevertheless, the UMBRELLA symbolizes LIFE. We are always needing, or seeking protection from one thing or another. We are constantly seeking shelter from the unknown, or from fear, and even seeking comfort from things in this world. Some people's UMBRELLA in life is other people,(being too reliant on one or more) some have addictions to alcohol or drugs. Some people use hobbies, or career, or money, or material things, or food as their personal UMBRELLA in life. As a Life Coach, I see many people living with these UMBRELLA'S, and never really facing life from the INSIDE OUT. Living INSIDE OUT is so freeing. It is so dynamic! What is living inside out? You may have asked. Well, it is being so content and at peace with WHO you are, WHERE you're going, WHAT your life's purpose is, and WHEN you're achieving those goals, and WHY you are doing and planning all those things, that you don't have a crutch (UMBRELLA of Life) that you hide from, or in, or with! It is so peaceful in that inner place that no UMBRELLA'S are ever really needed. People content and at peace with life have the perspective that Life is giving them what they are planning out, what they are thinking on most, and what they truly desire. Life for Non-UMBRELLA people is FAITH-FILLED living in practice! They do not depend or rely on circumstances, or things, or people to manipulate their mood, their progress, or their vision for what they desire; but rather, they decide and have firm convictions on what matters most, and they seek out those thoughts, and those resources that bring their goals to life!! My prayer for you today, is that you will let go of your UMBRELLA'S holding you down, Holding you back from experiencing the rain, the wind, and the sun -- Tackle those fears and allow your deserve level to raise into a HUGE tidal wave of results!! You can DECIDE to make different choices, which will give you different results, but as long as your holding on to your comfort zones, or staying in them, you will continue to see what you've already seen so far. You were born to be great! Your light is meant to shine! So. let down your UMBRELLA'S and GO MAKE A DIFFERENCE! YOU CAN DO IT!

Life Coach, Relationship Specialist

~Annalisa Ellenburg

INSPIRED LIFE COACHING, INC.

678-431-6528 inspiredlifecoaching.net

Happy Couples...or ...not?

04/22/2011 18:56:00

HAPPY COUPLES....OR...NOT??

Why is it that some people seem to just always get along? Are they really that happy? Behind the walls of their home, are they picture perfect like they appear? Chances are...they are not! Every couple has their own set of issues. They may not be putting their 'stuff' on facebook, or twittering about their morning spat, but this is why their appearances are seemingly happy. They may very well be a happy, stable couple, but they are somehow able to keep the issues between themselves, and work toward problem solving. Let's venture into what those probably look like, those Problem solving tactics that healthy couples have. Coaching many couples over the years, I have learned that there are a few things healthy couples have in common. Let me share those, and you can begin to incorporate these traits into your relationship, and be encouraged that positive results may transform.

1. Plan time for talking! Instead of talking as you walk through the house after work, gathering up the sports equipment, only to run out again for your child's practice, plan a time to share your thoughts and feelings.

2.Grow as friends verses falling into a room mate routine. Room mates are usually not romantically involved. But great friendships can develope into romances. Recent royal wedding bride and groom, Prince William and Kate Middleton's relationship stemmed from room mates and friendship to courtship, then romance! Friends plan outings, laugh together, do things with other friends, encourage each other, and always listen to each other with genuine interest.

3.Keep learning new things about your partner! Positive feelings about your partner stem solely from feeling that he/she really knows the real you. As we grow older, wiser, age and mature; our interests, hobbies, careers, and even preferences can change. When someone takes the time to 'listen' to and remember our preferences and interests, etc...it's like adding love fuel to our love tank!! By constantly learning more about your partner, you'll be able to incorporate their likes in gift-giving ideas, places to go, music preferences, favorite stores, restaurants, colors, styles, etc..

4. Find out your partner's LOVE LANGUAGE! The best selling author and expert on relationships, Dr. Gary Chapman wrote, The 5 Love Languages. A powerfully informative book to help you understand your partners most vital needs. Go to www.the5lovelanguages.com for more information.

5. Learn how to communicate effectively! If your emotions are elevated to the point of raising your voice, or name-calling, or worse, feeling the urge to get physical, you have a communication problem, and need to feel calm before proceeding into a discussion. The art of quality communication is vital for effectively living together, and having a positive healthy relationship.

6. Remember, you can not 'change someone' to fit your needs. If you have a problem in your relationship that consistently resurfaces without resolution, you have two choices:

1. agree to disagree, and be OK with that. (Not bringing that up again, or showing discontent about it) -or- 2. SOLVE it.

One big mistake I see in my office is couples who have a set of expectations for their partner, and their partner doesn't meet those. Many times, the expectations have something to do with a person's 'changed' or 'different' behaviors that were not present in the beginning of the relationship. RELATIONSHIP INSANITY is seeing the same behaviors over and over with another person, but your expecting different results. Break the spell by setting YOUR PERSONAL BOUNDARIES. Know what you can live with, what you can't, but don't live with something you can't tolerate, complain constantly when that expectation is not met. Be clear about what your needs are, and loving couples do make changes to accomodate their partners; however, we can't 'expect' our partners to change just because we want them too. What we CAN do, is change our behavior, and change how we react to the unwanted behavior.

7. FIND YOUR PURPOSE! You can never truly be happy in a relationship and embrace it fully and happily if you do not have something of your own that makes you feel your doing somehting worthwhile, something that makes YOU happy. Something that you feel is making a difference perhaps in the owrld, or with other's. If your making another person your world, your making a huge mistake, and this will result in disappointment. It is never any one else's job to make you happy, make you feel worthy, or beautiful, or deserving. It is up to YOU to make it a great day, each and everyday. Your designing YOUR life. Your choices make up your journey. You can choose to be content, or be in constant conflict by finding expecations that go unmet. Discover your purpose so you can be interesting to your partner, not a draining leach dependent on them for your well being.

Hope these tips are helpful to ENRICH YOUR RELATIONSHIPS...FOR LIFE!

Your Inspired Life Coach,

~ Annalisa

Life Coaching New Year! Let's get happy!

01/07/2011 14:58:00

As we say goodbye to the memories, the joys, and even the painful moments of 2010, let's embrace the potential, the excitement, and the future we have in the planning and intentions and the expectations of 2011!! I always love the new year, because it feels like cleaning out a closet, or an old purse!! You find things that were lost, you realize things weren't missing (or stolen!) after all, you realize what you don't need, and you see things differently, and think, why did I ever even need THAT? And we think, Wow...I am so doing THAT this year! New Year's is the most prominent time of renewal.

For extreme renewal, we all need to face the wisdom we learned from mistakes in the past, put these lessons into practice, recognize our weaknesses, and use new tools to change our actions and behaviors.

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over but expecting different results.

A positive peaceful life is never found in 'the next big thing' or a new amount of money, a new toy, a new job, or a new relationship. New peace and joy is found within oneself. When we examine our choices, we should make make changes that will accommodate the results we are working toward! We can not complete a goal if we haven't defined one! So, First step in renewal; SET YOUR GOAL! 2nd step, SET YOUR DEADLINE DATE! 3rd step: WRITE OUT YOUR ACTION PLAN! 4th step: GET TO WORK!! Zig Ziglar said,"Nothing happens until somebody sells something!" The same is true of our lives, nothing will happen until somebody moves into action!!

2011 for INSPIRED LIFE COACHING is bringing VERY exciting new programs and events! Be sure to read over the monthly newsletters to take advantage of the Life Coaching workshops coming soon! Better your life, take on a coachng partner, get results, acheive your goals, BECOME THE BEST YOU, FEEL like HEAVEN in 2011!!

For more details and to register for any of the events call,

Inspired Life Coach, Annalisa Ellenburg

678-431-6528

KODS(c) : Kids of Divorce Support groups

HAPPILY EVER AFTER (c) : Premarital-marital counseling -and- Before you say I do Workshop

HOLY-MATRI-MONEY (c) : MARRIAGE workshop

10 Commandments for Divorced Parents(c) : Single Parents with Kids workshop

Individual Coaching